On July 9 2018, our signboard said:
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A MIND OF PEACE IS BETTER THAN A PIECE OF MIND |
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I’m Gonna Give Him a Piece of My Mind!!!
It seems to happen every time you drive on to a road or enter a parking lot; one of “Those People” cuts you off or steals your parking spot. They get in your way, inconvenience you and maybe even endanger you.
The classic example happens in the mall parking lot during the Christmas rush. The place is packed. Even on the outer reaches of the
parking lot where they store the snow plows, there are no parking spots. You don’t really care about parking close (even though it’s only 20 degrees and a raw wind is blowing). You just want to park anywhere and get this shopping errand done. And so you join the competition, weaving back and forth through the parking rows like sharks looking for food. You search for backup lights. You follow pedestrians walking towards their car in hopes that they will vacate a spot and end your search.
But you finally find a spot. You wait for the exiting shoppers to enter their car, get it started, and empty a spot. You see backup lights and slam on your brakes. Then you patiently wait.
But another shark smells blood and out outmaneuvers you on the opposite side of the prey. You were there first! You did the work of following this person to his car! And yet, that other driver steals your parking spot. In anger you lay on your horn, tromp on the gas peddle and speed off. If it weren’t so cold you’d lower your window and shout out some colorful expressions that you’d never use in church. You’d want to “give him a piece of your mind!”
Why Do We Do That?!?
Much of what we humans do stems from defense mechanisms that compensate for our inner feelings. We “project”, or use “Sour Grapes”, or “Sweet Lemons” to somehow change our perception of the situation. This little article doesn’t claim to be drawn from professional psychological advice. But here’s some “armchair psychology” that might explain this….
We think too much of Ourselves…
When that “other driver” steals your spot, you might be thinking things like:
- “I’d NEVER do a thing like that!“…
- “I’m more patient than that person.“…
- “THAT person is selfish; I’M a caring giving person!“
Or you might be thinking:
- “How dare this little twit impinge on my schedule! I’m important. My time is more valuable than his!“
You’re a victim because you’re more important than the other driver. You deserved that spot more than him. And because of this gross injustice, you feel you have the right to fly off the handle and “Give him a piece of your mind!”
We think too little of Ourselves…
Or maybe you’ve got a bit of an Eeyore complex. Woe is me. You’ve got a cloud over your head while everyone else is being showered by sunlight.
- “I better lash out before it gets worse… ’cause it will…“

- “Why’s this always happen to me?!? It never happens to ___“
Or maybe you think that the other person IS better than you; that somehow the other driver had a firmer claim to that parking spot:
- “The other person has a newer car. He’s probably got a lot of money and deserves the best of things; including this parking spot.“
- “I did get lucky last week when I found that penny lying on the ground. I guess things just even out.“
- “Yeah, that driver cut me off on the freeway. But maybe I deserved it. Maybe I was driving too slow. Maybe the turn signals on my old clunker aren’t working…“
Maybe there’s even some “Projection” going on. Maybe you wonder about your own standards, and you need to put someone else down so you can try to raise yourself.
- “I’d never do that…. would I???”
A Mind of Peace!
But whatever the reason, we don’t have to react with anger. And, we don’t have to be a doormat and think that we somehow don’t deserve fair treatment. We don’t have to run to either extreme!
- Jesus said: “I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” (John 14:27)
- The prophet Isaiah called Jesus “The Prince of Peace.” (Isaiah 9:6)
But how’s that play out in real life? Even Jesus experienced anger when He cleared the Temple. Are we always at peace?
We live in a world that’s full of injustice. We’re going to be wronged. We’re going to be hurt. But we don’t have to loose our temper if we see our value as a person from God’s view instead of the world’s view. Paul told the Romans (Romans 12:2)-
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
Change the way you think. Look towards God and seek His will instead of your own. “The things of earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace.”
Here are some more truths about God that might help you have a “Mind of Peace” instead of giving a “Piece of your Mind”…
It’s Your Choice…
What kind of mind do you want? Do you want to be on the edge of giving someone a “piece of your mind” or have you refocused your mind on God so that you can have Peace? In Galatians 5 (19-25 ) Paul contrasts two different mindsets. One is when we determine our own value and give a piece of our mind. But the other is when we allow God to value us, and we let the “Fruits of the Spirit” give us a Mind of Peace.
Here are a few items from that passage that compare these two attitudes:
| PIECE OF YOUR MIND | MIND OF PEACE |
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What’s your reaction when something goes wrong? Do you immediately jump to giving a “Piece of you mind”, or are you controlled by God’s Spirit which allows you to react with a “Mind of Peace”?
All quotations in this post are from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation ®, copyright © 1996, 2004 by Tyndale Charitable Trust. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers. All rights reserved.
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